I am sharing all my wins and lessons from 2021. And for 2022 the goals that I set and my new years resolutions.
What a year 2021 it has been. I have mixed emotions, the year felt endless, yet gone in a flash! In 2020 I tried something different and I put together a list of some of my favorite personal development tools. Mostly because I was disappointed at the lack of “goals” I actually achieved. If I had to choose a word to describe 2020, it would be restorative. It was time to slow down, do less, and learn to nest at home.
How Far I Have Come
The last few years have been very transformational. Since I had the time to slow down, I spent a lot of time working towards personal development and really starting to understand my behaviour, and my triggers. There is room for improvement, but one of the things I have been struggling with is getting in touch with my emotions. I have trouble unlocking them and then figuring out what they mean to then work through them. It sounds simple but I had coping mechanisms for so long, that I had no idea I was even doing it. I can’t wait until I can say that I have fully course-corrected.
What Am I Most Proud Of
Reveling in success is something that I have never been good at. I often get caught up in achieving goals and I don’t take the time to celebrate my wins. This year, although my blog has taken a back seat, my Instagram has been gaining more attention. Even with my small following, I have had the opportunity to work with some awesome local brands and even a few larger companies including Revlon and Paula’s Choice.
What Have I Overcome This Year
2021 has been so mixed. My work was closed indefinitely until June 2021, so I put together multiple campaigns, redid them, only to have them put on a shelf for a later date. As someone that loves a plan, trying to expect the unexpected and dealing with plans constantly changing was discouraging. I really learned how to be agile and creative and I truly discovered the meaning of what doesn’t kill me will make me stronger.
What Do I Need To Let Go Of This Year
This is an easy one, control! The more you are tied to an outcome the more likely you are to be disappointed. Hours of Abraham Hicks Youtube videos have taught me that I can just focus on hoping that good things are going to happen for me and do my best to only put energy into the things that I can control.
When it Comes to Dating, If They Wanted to They Would
Dipping my toe in the dating world in a pandemic is not fun at all! My hopes of having a real-life encounter basically shattered when I can’t mingle and I am wearing a mask the majority of the time. I’ve been told my smile is my top feature and I have had to keep that half of my face hidden. After taking the summer off, I went back to swiping in the fall. While maintaining multiple texting relationships with zero hangs outs, it has become very clear to me the one universal rule. If they wanted to they would. If a guy wants to ask you out he would. If he is not making an effort, tell them that you are bored and move on. Don’t analyze, don’t follow up, just let it go.
Goal Setting for 2022
Like most things in life, my goals this year are closely aligned with the changing seasons of my life. Discovering my values helped me to prioritize so I can have a sense of purpose and fulfillment. For 2022, I have decided these are the things that hold precedence.
Putting Health First
I had a cough for most of 2021, as a classic avoider, I self-diagnosed it as seasonal allergies, then, when it continued a milk allergy, and when it was keeping me up all night, I went to the doctor. They discovered I have acid reflux! Since my health has always been a priority, I was surprised I wasn’t more in tune with my body. I eat clean during the week and tend to be relaxed on weekends; however, I think I got caught up in a few too many alcoholic beverages in the summer and got lazy about meal prepping in the fall. Once I started to eat small healthy meals, integrated breakfast into my daily routine and reduced my caffeine consumption, it has made a huge difference.
Finding the Balance
I used to beat myself up if I didn’t make it to the gym five days a week or wasted a whole day hungover in bed. I would be racked with guilt. One of the things that I want to cut back on is the negative self-talk that goes on in my head. As much as it feels good to achieve goals, I still want to enjoy my life…but not overindulge. On the other end of the spectrum, I can go to the extremes of all or nothing.
Making time for fun, time for responsibilities and growth and time for health are all a priority to me. Constant productivity isn’t always productive. Instead of packing my schedule, I want to try and leave some time to recharge. It is all about finding the right combination.
Tiktok has convinced me that ADHD in females often goes undiagnosed and I fully convinced myself I have it. I seldom channel my energy into a single task; I am constantly multitasking, which just leads to mistakes and a lack of attention to detail. Finding time to channel my energy and focus, even just on simple things like watching TV without scrolling through my phone is one of my goals for 2022.
Knocking Things Off the Bucket List
This filters back into my guilt, I have bucket list items from 2021 that I have still not completed. For 2022 I want to have a little bit of foresight and put a few of them in the books early on in the year to avoid my end-of-year disappointment. At the top of the list, seeing the northern lights, going to a natural hot spring, and attending a yoga retreat.
I usually write these sorts of posts to be an inspiration and help you to put together your own list of goals for the new year.
Do you find posts like this useful? How are you feeling about the new year? What tools do you usually use to help you keep track of your goal setting? Let me know in the comments below.